One of the most powerful things we can do for ourselves is to examine the ideas and beliefs we absorb from our families and society and choose which ones we want to keep and which ones we want to let go of.
Much of what we learn as children does not serve as adults, but we often carry it with us into our adult lives unless we consciously choose to let it go.
This can be anything from the belief that we are not good enough or that we must struggle to cope, to more subtle messages about how we should look or behave.
When we take a close look at the ideas that shape our lives, we can begin to question whether they are really true or helpful, and make a choice to let go of those that do not serve us.
This can be a liberating experience that opens up new possibilities for happiness and success.
No matter how much you meditate and how much you write and repeat positive affirmations, you will find it challenging to vibrate at a high level to bring about what you dream of while holding on to some of these messages and so called life lessons that do not serve you.
One of the biggest secrets to manifesting success is to feel genuinely positive, and one of the best ways to feel generally positive most of the time is to accept that much of what you have picked up along your life’s journey is not true .
You have much more power than you realize to be able to live the life you dream of.
Here are some of the life lessons and messages that I believe many of us have picked up during our travels. Take a look and see if you relate to them.
I believe we all need to remove these things to create purpose and positivity.
1. What others think of me is important
Well, no, it’s not actually, and the sooner you realize that, the better.
Such freedom comes when you realize that other people’s behavior towards you is much more revealing about themselves than it is about you.
Let the fear of judgments and comparisons go.
Believe in yourself and stop worrying about what others think of you.
2. I need someone to fill me up so I can be whole
Wrong. We are already alone. If you think you need someone else to complete you, you will remain unsatisfied and unhappy.
No one else can fix you or permanently make you feel better.
You have to do the work yourself to feel whole, then when you’ve done that, joining another whole person is the only real recipe for a happy love life.
3. The only way to success and money is to work hard
Or in other words, suffering is necessary in order to get anywhere in life.
While hard work is not bad, it is if you are not enjoying what you do.
There is a saying, do what you love, and you will never work a day in your life.
I love this, I believe you are more likely to get where you want to be when you enjoy the journey and the flow.
Work smarter, not harder!
4. Self-love is selfish
Wrong. Arrogance and selfish behavior are selfish.
Loving yourself is natural and necessary.
Self love isn’t just about having a bubble bath and getting a massage.
It’s about core acceptance and respect for who you are as a person.
Loving yourself means treating yourself as a beautiful and spiritual being.
Being your own best friend means knowing what you deserve on a soul level and not settling for anything less.
5. I am the way I am because of my past and I cannot change it
We all have emotional baggage. Some of us have had very traumatic pasts.
While we are influenced by our experiences, we do not have to be driven by them.
There comes a point when we can take responsibility for who we are and how we live.
We can change the way we live by creating a new reality.
6. We should not feel negative emotions
I know I talk a lot about positivity, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t a place for your negative feelings and emotions.
Often as children, we are taught not to cry, to put a brave face on things or to get rid of our ‘bad’ feelings.
But our bad feelings are just as valid and need to be felt in order to get past us.
The next time you experience a negative emotion, try to see it as temporary, allow yourself to feel it, and let it go.
I guarantee you will get through it much easier, and you will feel better.
7. We should always be happy
Following on from the point above, the idea that we must always be positive and smile is not realistic.
Life is about balance, yin and yang, day and night.
We need the rain and the sun.
It is important to keep a positive outlook but more than that is the importance of feeling love for yourself.
When you love yourself you activate your intuition, and that is your best guide in life.
8. I can’t be what I want to be
This is a big one, guys!
The fear is that we are not smart enough or good enough, don’t live in the right city, or know the right people.
It’s all self limiting and just plain wrong.
This type of belief only encourages a defeatist attitude.
The truth is that we can all be whatever we want to be, there is room for each of us to light up the world in our own unique ways.
Which one of these did you really feel?
