I noticed this in many people, which led me to come to the conclusion that no matter how successful and competent a person is, there will always be habitual patterns of behavior that keep us stuck in certain areas of our lives.
I am also guilty of this myself. And I believe it is part of being human.
I have not met a single person without any pattern of negative behavior.
Nevertheless, it does not mean that we should accept it and live with it. What I did is to find a way to reduce it, because it makes a lot of difference. When you significantly reduce getting into that pattern, it becomes possible to break free from it completely.
But, it will take time and a lot of work on your part, but trust me, it will be worth it.
When you start to get rid of the negative behavior patterns in your life, you will evolve and grow, and it will be amazing.
Trust me when I say, when you’re in the process of consciously eliminating it from your life, you won’t notice the changes right away…but you will in time, and you’ll feel a weight lifted off of you. shoulders
I’m going to stop napping, and start sharing some tips on how you can change these negative patterns and move forward in your life.
The first thing you should do is identify the behavior. Now, I want you to do this one at a time. Treat one behavior before moving on to another.
What I mean when I say identify is to sit with that behavior. Understand why you are there. In some cases, you won’t recognize it at first, but you feel in your gut that there is something you need to shed light on in order to understand it. The time you will allocate to this will be significant for your progress, therefore, take all the time in the world to understand what that behavior is and why you give in to it.
Imagine yourself without her
At this point, you have a deeper understanding of the behavior. And you are quite eager to get rid of it. But before that, I want you to see your future self without her. What does it look like? How do you feel? When you think about it, how do you feel? Form that mental image of how things would be if this behavior stopped being a part of your life. See and feel it. Allow yourself to be surrounded by emotions and then, after that, act on it.
When you have visualized it, it is time to take responsibility for your thoughts and emotions. This may be a challenge for you. Personally, I struggled with this because I would end up denying that they exist. However, it is vital that you take responsibility and accept them.
Be aware of what you feel, what you are thinking, and what you objectively think about. I suggest keeping a daily log to help you keep track of your behavior.
Switch Your Focus
Your mind is like a computer, which means you can reprogram it any time you want. With this, you can change your focus. Gain leverage by focusing on the pain you cause and the pleasure that changing your life will bring. Make it even better by setting a date to break the habit and then take small steps to change the way you do things until you are free of it.
These may seem like “basic” steps to you, but they are the most effective I have tried. Other than that, I recommend you check this out as it is a powerful tool to help you break free of negative behavior patterns.